Disagreement vs Argument

I am on a wonderful magnificent journey right now, learning lesson upon lesson, and wanted to share this one with you….

How to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument:

1. Welcome the disagreement: Remember the slogan, “When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary.” if there is some point you have not thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention. Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.

2. Distrust your first instinctive impression: Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your best.

3. Control your temper: Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

4. Look for areas of agreement: When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.

5. Be honest: Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.

6. Promise to think over your opponents ideas and study them carefully: And mean it. Your opponents may be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say: “We tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen.”

7. Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest: Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of themm as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.

8. Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem: Suggest that a new meeting be held later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear. In preparation for this meeting, ask yourself some hard questions:
Could my opponent be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve my frustration? Will my reactioon drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over? Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me?

POWERFUL!!!! POWERFUL!!!! So many arguments can be avoided from a small disagreement if we only take these steps to ensure peace.

Hope that helps someone today on their journey. Have a fabulous weekend.

Luv Wendy
“Bella”

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KARMA

I have been having some huge lessons these days and one major lesson is about KARMA. I guess it can be good Karma or bad Karma.

Basically the Definition of Karma is this:
Karma is simply the process of cause and effect. If you do A, B will happen. If you plant tomato seeds, and water and look after them, tomatoes will grow.

whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap St Paul, Galatians 6-7

Before we are born in this world we decide, while still in the realms of Spirit and along with our higher guides, the lessons we shall pursue here. Spirit helps us pursue these lessons by creating the conditions necessary for us to receive our chosen experience.

Karma is not about punishment. In Spirit there is no absolute right or wrong. It is about experience and fulfillment of purpose. The idea that we are punished for sins is a man-made form of social control. A highly advanced soul may choose to incarnate into a crippled body, or as an insect, if that is beneficial to their progress.

I’ve really come to understand and realize that Karma influences our current life in two ways. First, we carry karma as part of our life conditions, though not all of our conditions are karmic in origin. Karma is the part of our conditions that represents unfinished business and other residues from the past. Second, we create future karma continually with every thought and action.

As an individuated part of Spirit there will be particular areas of growth necessary for our personal evolution. There are also areas in which we may best contribute to the growth of Spirit in its totality. Sometimes karma thrusts us into diametrically opposite conditions than we previously experienced.

The first step in dealing with existing karma is awareness and acknowledgement of it. Are there any themes that seem to recur throughout your life? Nothing happens by chance. Recurrent themes suggest the hand of karma. These recurrent themes are telling you they are providing conditions for some necessary life experience.

This experience may be obvious to you, but where it is not you may need to ask Spirit for guidance through prayer, meditation, or through your dreams.

Once you understand the karmic themes of your incarnation you can start working with them, ie swim with the tide rather than against it. If you find it hard to acquire or hold money, you need to practice good money management. If you find it hard to make friends you need to be that bit nicer to others… If you’re not sure how to work with your karma, ask for guidance and be open to the answers.

The second aspect of karma is that it is being created all the time. Every act of will, every thought, is a karmic act. By acting in accordance with our Spiritual purpose in particular and Spiritual principles in general (“thy will be done”) we create good karma for tomorrow. But good karma doesn’t mean material success, it is concerned with Spiritual progress and making one’s soul available to more advanced lessons rather than continually repeating grade 1.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you Matthew 7-120

Karma works at a more immediate level by returning to you what you give to others. There’s nothing particularly mystical about this. If you’re friendly to others, you receive friendship. If you’re generous, people are more inclined to be generous to you.

Karma vs Luck : Some people think they are the same, however Luck is the quality that seems to attract good things to some people and repel them from others. But is luck real, or all in the mind?

To some degree luck is an illusion, or simply a matter of how you look at life. Say someone won $10,000 on the lottery, but just missed the jackpot by one number. Some would consider themselves lucky to get $10,000, while others would be cursing their misfortune not to win a million. If you find yourself cursing your luck, take time to count your blessings. You will find they are many.

The “other man’s grass is greener” syndrome also distorts our perception of luck. Human nature tends to notice others’ good fortune and our own bad. In fact everyone has their share of problems, burdens, challenges, and blessings too, to lighten the load. The key here is to focus upon your own pathway.

All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players Shakespeare

Having said all that, luck as a manifestation of karma, is real. Some people do attract money jobs, the right partner… I know I for sure attracted the right partner with manifestation and also the same with him for attracting me. All we can do is try to recognize our own particular conditions and to operate to the maximum within these.

So, next time something happens to you, take a minute to think about the Karma. Be aware of all your thoughts and actions, as they can come back on you with KARMA.

Have a fabulous day

Wendy
“Bella”

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The Value of a Smile at Christmas

Some years ago, a department store in New York City, in recognition of the pressure of its sales clerks were under during the Christmas rush, presented the readers of its advertisements with the following homely philosophy

The Value of a smile at Christmas

It cost nothing, but creates much.
It enriches those who receive, without impovershing those who give.
It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
Noone are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits.
It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends.
It is rest to the weary, daylight to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and nature’s best antidote for trouble
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen for it is something that is no earthy good to anybody till it is given away.
And if in the last minute rush of Christmas buying some of our salespeople should be too tired to give you a smile, may we ask you to leave one of yours?
For nobody needs a smile so much as those who have none left to give!!

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